wounded, I'm so sorry about this curve ball you've been thrown. Don't give up. March is not that far away. Can you tolerate your current situation until you get your card renewed? Separating/divorcing is really a long process. There is lots you can be doing as you weather through this period. See a lawyer, get your finances in order, become very aware of all family assets and debts, photocopy all records, etc. There is tons to do. Work out your best strategy with your lawyer. Then when you get your card, you will have an action plan in place and be ready to take the next step. It took me 17 months from the time I decided I wanted to split with my husband until I told him I wanted a divorce, and another 6 months from then until we separated, and that was 2 months ago, and we have still not even filed for divorce. There is a lot to do to disentangle your lives. I hope you can last safely where you are until you get your card. If it is not safe, make sure you have an "escape" plan. Take care.