I am so sorry for what you are going through and how you were treated. It's so difficult and I relate to you when you say you wish people owned up to their behavior. I'm dealing with something similar, not with my mother but another family member who uses my illness as a reason to be verbally abusive towards me. It's so difficult because I feel so grateful to this person for sticking by me but I also feel they contribute to making my symptoms worse and then they don't own up to their behavior so I feel gaslighted. Perhaps you can relate to some of that. I'm so deeply sorry.....like other posters I don't have advise on how to solve this problem as I'm dealing with it myself, but you have my sympathies and support. I recently started telling my therapist about all that goes on with interpersonal relationships because I really think I'm being verbally abused at times and when we are so fragile already, we just don't need it. I hope you have a professional you can confide in who can offer guidance or at minimum, help you feel safe and heard. (((Hugs)))