^^Dude, she was asleep. If your sons are so scared of being accused of rape, tell them not to penetrate an unconscious woman. Seems pretty straightforward to me. Are you Brock Turners mother?

OP, your story is basically how I lost my virginity. It is absolutely rape and you are not at fault. Do you have a therapist to work through these emotions with? I know it is painful and scary, but I promise with time you will start to feel better. If you want to talk privately please feel free to pm me. Hugs [emoji173]