I can see you are feeling overwhelmed right now, no wonder you are disillusioned with therapy.

I can't pretend to have any answers but did want to give you my input for what it's worth, I can't comment on your career issues but will stick with your relationship/friendship concerns.

First of all you say:

That sounds like you are aware of healthy boundaries (both sexual and emotional) and your commitment to your partner - that really is the most important thing I feel here.

You also wrote:

Well people write lots of things on here, and while they are entitled to their opinion it's not necessarily the last word. I have often wondered how that 'no friends of gender you are attracted to' applies to bisexual people, and it's quite ridiculous to me to think the answer is that they must have no friends at all. I know gay people who have friends the same sex and it seems to work okay for them, and I'm one of those straight people who does have opposite sex friends too. Most of us need friendship in our lives, we suffer without it in fact - to narrow our choice of friends by sex/sexuality would make this even harder to have.

The two friendships you talk about, the one who rejected you on faith grounds IMO cannot really have been a true friend. The other friend, I'm guessing you hit on her before you entered this relationship you're in now, it sounds like that might have been a confusing relationship - but that doesn't mean that will happen again with another friend.

I really empathise with you, friendships can be complicated sometimes, but you are in no way a loser and I am sure you are capable of working on this area of life.