Hmm I will have to think more about this to give a good answer but off the cuff. I am working on boundaries and limits. I tend to believe I should do whatever is necessary to make others like me or to take care of others, to the extent of being smothering. I am used to being my mother's emotional dumping ground. I have just recently learned to not pick up her hints when I am not up to listening to her problems. I am still working on not feeling guilty if something goes wrong for one of my kids. I can't control the world so I can't be responsible for everything that happens.