[QUOTE=vjdragonfly;5664571]My eldest is 21 and has relied on us almost completely, but there comes a time they have to take care of their-self. I just feel like I've done my part and this is so hard

That is so not true. My cut off was 18 when she went off to college. She must have sensed it and sat me down a week ago and held my hands and said I need you now, I need you for college and graduation and my first love and my first job and at my wedding and for my first house and there as I give birth and to help me raise my babies and if you leave me I will be devestated but forever I will be angry that you didn't love me enough to stay and threw a hand grenade into my life and my dreams.

You matter!!! So much!!!! For you and for them!!! Please keep fighting.