SD, that was very insightful. I'm glad you could back up and understand what your person might be going through. I'm sure you were very helpful and your person appreciated you very much.

I'm going to rail at T's tomorrow afternoon! I've already been railing at T over the phone yesterday and today.

Today I took the phone off the hook and was going to clean. Brother and nephew are coming over Saturday. But...the dog got sick all over the carpet.. Everywhere! I'm glad I covered the sofa and dog beds with towels and throws. I railed pretty good at no one in particular, too, as I cleaned up and threw things in the washer. I used up all my energy reserves yesterday. I'm watching the dog closely. She's acting better now. I took her food away for today but left her water out. Not sure why she got sick but sure didn't need that to happen today.

So far, T has said to wait for a moment of calm then tell DD that I want to be there to support and help her AND that I will need to limit my exposure to her meltdowns when she becomes belligerent with me ...that I will end the conversation when I deem necessary ...that I will not be gone forever but I need to take a break. Basically, what you just said, SD.

This is so stressful. T says I don't need to allow DD to get away with her behavior just because she's sick. I hope somehow DD can catch herself before she melts down and stops this illogical raging at me.