Yes, it is possible, perhaps. I don't think it is good for a woman to move in with a man, unless she pretty much has decided that she is very much in love, and loved, and thinks this will be permanent. I don't really believe in living with a man to try him out, like test driving a car you might buy. I think people should date, until they are sure they want to be together.

I don't think you would move in with a guy just to see what it's like. I think you do love this guy and want to be with him. But part of you has never emancipated yourself from your family of origin. So you staying with him seems to depend on whether you can stand the tension this creates with your family.

Something you said strikes me as very naive and pollyanna-ish: "I know my sister wants the best for me." Human motivation is way more complicated than that. Your sister - like all human beings - is best able to judge how something affects her, and she, naturally, wants that effect to be positive for her. She's responding to how she feels being around your boyfriend. Unless she is gifted with some super-human trait, she can't possibly know what is best for you. Both of my sisters selected husbands I would not have picked out for them. The man I'm with is not someone they would likely have picked out for me.

I can believe that somewhere in the world there probably is a guy who would be better for you than the guy you're with. But who says you're ever going to run into that guy? Is your sister going to find him for you? There's going to be something wrong with any guy you meet. That's how human beings are. Your sister, with her judgement unclouded by being in love, is easily going to see your guy's faults. But she can't see how being with him makes you feel. What she can see us how being around him makes her feel. You can't pick out a mate based on how that guy makes your mom and sister feel. Well, you can, but I think that would be kind of crazy.

I think your mom and sister are way out of line in trying to undermind your feelings for this man. Being prone to anger is a serious character trait that might totally turn off some women. That doesn't mean it has to be a "deal breaker" for you. You have to look at the total package of how this guy is put together, in terms of how you feel being with him. You're never going to get a guarantee of what your life will be like in 30 years.

Make up your iwn mind. Don't keep telling yourself that your family knows best. They don't. They can't. Your sister can decide what man is good for her. That's all she can figure out. Family does well to advise a member against getting involved with a total loser. This guy you're with doesn't sound like that. So the decision is harder, and you have to make it.

Your mom and sister are actually being very disrespectful of you by insisting that you made a bad decision being with this man. Also, it is disrespectful of the love you have for this man for you to be sitting with your family pulling this guy apart.

So back to the issue of you becoming your own person: develop some boundaries. It should not be okay with you for your family to denigrate your choice of a man to be with, as though you are some poor dummy who needs others to figure things out for you. If you go to a restaurant with your sis, does she order your food for you? Actually, it would be better for you to be with the wrong guy that you selected, than to be with a better guy that they picked out for you.