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Originally Posted by Ceara1010
Thank you for sharing. I read your whole post too.
I'm sorry your grandmother is so unaccepting. That must be very painful. The older generations are often still rigid about sexuality.
It's frustrating when you want to spend time with someone and they are "connected at the hip" with someone else. I recently met a woman I would like to spend some time hanging out with, but her boyfriend is always there. And they don't invite anyone to hang out with the two of them. They are always alone together in her apartment.
Have you asked your friend if the two of you could have some time together without the girlfriend? Tell her you miss spending that kind of time together. Maybe she will respond.
--Ceara |
My friend actually approached me and asked if we could hang out, just the 2 of us. This was a couple of months back. And I was so happy and the hang out was going great...until she said that she has to leave early to see her girlfriend and, instead, the girlfriend would come hang out with us instead. I didn't know how to tell her that I'd rather hang out with her alone, you know? I don't want to come off as jealous or anything, you know? So I'm not sure how to approach the situation...because other than that she is a FANTASTIC friend. Absolutely wonderful. She's just attached to her girlfriend's hip. =/
And yes, it is really sad that my grandma will go down not accepting me...It's sad that she is so ignorant and not willing to change.
Thank you for reading my post and responding to it.
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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967
I read your whole post. I don't have any words of wisdom but wanted to let you know I support you and I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. Hang in there. I hope things turn around for you.  would it help you to have a therapist? |
I actually do have a therapist. I've had her for almost 3 years but she tends to downplay my problems because she's white and she has white privilege and she has no idea what it's like being black and living in poverty. So she unintentionally makes light of my situation while disregarding the fact that things are a LOT easier for her, being middle class and white. =/ So it's sort of tough being in therapy now, and even my therapist is at a loss as to what I can do to alleviate the pressure at home.
She is great, just a little naïve.
Thank you for reading my post as well. It makes me happy that you all were willing to read my post. I'm very grateful.