Hi...I mainly joined this forum in the hope I could support somebody dear in my life, but I've failed. A little history;

My friend and I went a long way back. As kids, we were pretty much inseparable and, I always thought we'd be "lifers" then, as is, we both grew up, moved away, etc. Cutting a very long one short, I eventually found out last year, this friend is suffering from serious mental health issues. I won't go into it, I know that their odd behaviour, the evasion, brushing things off, strenuously denying that anythings wrong, etc, are all part of the illness. I've tried (I believe) everything, over the best part of the last 20 years, to firstly, find out what's been happening and to try and understand them, and to try relating to them....things will be fine for a while and then, if it doesn't go silent, it all gets extremely strange between us.

I know I've been wrong, but, I've lost patience several times now, with my friend, and of course nobody needs that. I sent a final text this morning, I actually feel we are best of apart. A 30 odd year friendship, gone. I tried talking, I promise I did, but it didn't go anywhere. We used to be able to talk for hours constantly....our last meeting was pleasant enough, only that it felt like being with your Aunty, neither of us knew what to say. Is it ever ok to call time and give up?