I wrote a long thing but it was too all over the place. My child was colic and now has a mood disorder and ASD. He was 50% likely to get a mood disorder then kids without both parents having a mood disorder. Things I'd do differently seek proper help sooner for all of us, be in weekly therapy or IOP after pregnancy and medicate right after pregnancy. Having a child doesn't have to change your lifestyle but it does require more planing, and more stress. I don't feel I could work and have a family but I'm really glad I chose to have him. He turns 15 in ~2 weeks. It's not rainbows and sunshine most of the time but it is rewarding.