i would advise, first, believe in yourself and those things you desire...

second, make a comprehensive mental evaluation... emotions aside..

try to choose if this relationship betters, or harms the self and, even consider, does it harm others in another way? think of the children that MAY or MAY NOT exist in your future.. what is best for them?

third, examine the emotional elements... is there open and growing communication, or=, is it the other... then, for yourself, make the wisest choice..

best to you saluki ...