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Originally Posted by daisydid
I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one who has told T to "STOP IT." In one session he made a really weak attempt to normalize my transference toward him and I just looked at him and said, "of course you're normalizing." He shrugged his shoulders and basically said "I tried."
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This reminds me of when H and I would have a fight and be talking about it in marriage counseling. And I'd maybe be saying how I'd been stressed out about it or worried it would happen again, something like that. And MC would say, in the caring voice, "But you handled it." Like, the fact that we had a fight didn't matter because we survived it and are still sitting there. When he did that recently, I sort of went off on him and said something like, "Yes, I know, we handled it, and I know fights are OK. But the issues that led to it are still there, and I'd like to address those. Just knowing 'we handled it' doesn't help!"
He seemed a bit taken aback (I don't usually go off on him like that...though I have been more lately, come to think of it), but we did end up having a productive session after that!