I have nothing against her helping with my illness. (though admittedly I get very annoyed when the first thing out of her mouth is "have you taken your meds" when we have a disagreement). And I do appreciate it.

But listing off all the wrongs I have done in my lifetime while I am literally losing my mind and asking her to back off? no, she just wants to argue and justifies that she cares for me by pointing at all the nurse-like things she does. Not one iota of understanding. No attempt at offering a shoulder to cry on. She would rather fight my illness than help me through it. I bet if she could traq me she would so she didn't have to listen to me.