My parents were very ritulistic in the sense that same words and tones were spoken requiring the same answer after years of beatings.....my father was sadistic in the manner that he got enjoyment evidensed by the sneering smirk and eye glint...over the control he had over us....even today 40 years later....so no communications with him.

My mother is the same but she followed on cue...she's just a simple farm girl not knowing anything....so we get along fine.