Thanks yes I need to talk about it with her and tell her to stop pushing. We are doing stage one work not trauma work but she keeps saying she needs to know which one is present with her to be able to work with us, she says she needs to tailor her help to each one and then needs to know which others ones know how to use the techniques she teaches.
Each time she pushes on this issue I get very triggered but the worst one was last time when she pushed and pushed right at the end of the session and then we had to leave triggered AND it was the last session before she went abroad for several weeks. It did not feel safe at all and was very destabilizing.
I don't know exactly what the fear is but it is like if anyone says their name they will be trapped and something very bad will be done to them. This feeling takes over even with the ones who do normal life things and haven't had any trauma. Its like a rule for all parts that no one can say who they are to the outside world. But we can talk about each other and say each others names with our therapist without any problem at all. It only happens when any one is asked to say their own name.
Anyway I am going to talk about it with her when she comes back. It isn't safe for her to keep pushing so hopefully she can find another way to work with the system.