to try not to be "out" is to deny yourself... we are each different people with different ways of thinking and looking at situations.
I would say not to worry to much of being "out"... everyone is "out" to some extent, and as long as we don't harm others, our differences can foster growth

at least that's how I like to think about it... just a thought.

And sorry you're feeing down. I really like how you came up with that.... makes a lot of sense to me. Facing reality is hard.