If you really want my opinion - it is to stop doing any of it now. I would check with lawyer first and if there is no legal reason why in your state you need to be doing any of it - I would stop everything or everything that could be stopped without divorce ramifications, and go on with life.

Being "nice" in divorce proceedings never made any client I ever heard of --happy in the end.
If both parties were reasonably amicable - that was different - that could work.