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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
Mini-poll time, something I need to decide on for the final divorce decree:
- how long would you guys keep paying to keep an ex-spouse's possessions in storage? I have been paying already for 18 months or so. It's not a lot, about $90/month, but I want it off my budget. What seems a fair amount of time to allow said mentally ill ex, location unknown, to pick up said belongings? A year from the date of the final decree?
- likewise how long would you give them to get off your cell plan? I'm not actually sure how much that is costing me, and I have found it useful to be able to check his phone records in case there's any indication he's coming near me. Six months maybe?
There are a few other entanglements like insurance for my car (his car is on its own plan), but that I don't have any compunctions about removing him from as soon as I have the decree to show them (though it won't save me money).
Am I being too generous? At least one therapist (3) thought so, before I even started proceedings. And where I'm really hung up is he's on my Amazon Prime account - uses the shipping, video, music features a lot (we can't see each other's actual account information like address, though I can see what he puts on the watchlist - I sometimes get the feeling he puts specific titles on there to send me a message). I can't bring myself to do the two mouse clicks that it would take to remove him, because, what if it's giving him some pleasure in what is so obviously a terrible life for him?
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I agree with SD, I think you have already been too generous. I did read your further post where you are afraid of him, so that is definitely something to be taken into account. That is a tough situation, and I feel like I can't give well-informed advice here. Have you talked to CW about any of this?
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Originally Posted by junkDNA
Please don't hate me couchies
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I am more concerned about your paranoia levels. They have seemed to get worse over the past week or two. What has changed?
I don't hate you, and do not think you are a socio/psychopath.