I told everyone that we were going Christmas shopping and I thought is was a wonderful day. The weather was nice there were not a lot of people around and my wife seemed happy. I love to see her smile and hear her laugh. So as we were walking around shopping I kept asking her to hold my hand in a playful manner. She kept saying no. So in order to keep the day upbeat I played off this. I kept telling her she knew she wanted to hold my hand and that I have been working out and she would not be able to resist me soon. All of this was done out of jest. Well she took it the wrong way, she thought I was being disrespectful not doing what she asked. We talked about it and came to the conclusion that we both had different perceptions on what was going on. I guess what I am trying to say is how do you get over having two different perceptions in a relationship? We have gone through this for seven years and never really came to a conclusion. Since my meds have kicked in I have felt nothing but love for my wife and I have tried to show her in little small ways like iviting her to play cards one night and even making an email invitation to do something that she wants to do. Apperently I am pushing too much, but I feel if I am not there she is going to slip away into the arms of another man. I am really confused on what to do. I am tired of hearing everyone say, "He who cares the least" that is such a load of BS. If I care the least then that is putting me right back where I was before. I am tired of people telling me she is seeing someone. All I can say to that is if she is she is, apperently I did not do something that made her happy and she is looking for it somewhere else. I really don't think something like that would break up our marriage and to be honest I know she is not seeing anyone. If it is one thing our relationship does have is honesty. I tell her everything and she does the same for me. It took me about a year to gain enough smarts to realize that in this relationship I needed to be honest. We tell the truth because we do not want the other person to feel betrayed. I do so love my wife and there is nothing that I can do to show her that I do love her. Everything I have tried has gotten me nowhere real fast.