A former boyfriend of mine is bipolar. The last time we dated, he rejected me for something more longer term (he wouldn't elaborate). Then he married a psychologist.

We ran into each other and caught up briefly. He shared with me that she emotionally abuses him with the line "have you taken your meds today" when they argue and she wants to shut him down. She is always right, according to her, bc she has a counseling license.

Apparently, according to her, that trumps his teacher's license. So, he never wins an argument and is emasculated (according to him) by her. She also picks and chooses to listen to (abide by) what advice he gives her about how to treat him, if you can believe that.

So, I sympathize with you. I would say, if the marriage isn't working for you and your wife is domineering and overbearing to the point where it just shuts you down and frustrates you; then divorce seems like a reasonable choice to me. I mean, why be with the wrong person. Sure, we all have our flaws. But when the person you marry, emotionally abuses you, and knows that you are quite aware that they are emotionally abusing you but won't stop emotionally abusing you...then why stay married to that horrible person. I don't know you or your wife. So, this is purely my stream of consciousness from my encounter with my ex-boyfriend who married the wrong woman (I wouldn't have married him if he'd asked, but that's for another thread).