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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom
4 hours late is too much, I'd be mad. You've repetitively discounted her time on here and just minimized her to mental illness. I grew up upper middle class, I'm very intelligent. As her employee it's not your business her mental health.
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Miguel, you were not there to witness her in action. It is one thing to get upset and a little angry, but to get completely outraged where you are doing your best to hurt the person you are yelling at is another. Lets put it this way, she could have texted way earlier to find out where I was or canceled by calling. She waited and waited because in her mind she was going to punish me. I can tell you her objective whether she realized it or not was to do the following
1. Intimidate me
2. Scare me
3. Control
4. Vent her rage to make herself feel better.
She managed to accomplish all 4 and after doing some research on anger management, when people are angry, they are really acting out of desperation and out of insecurity. By attacking the person whom they are targeting, it allows them to feel superior. When she cut me off mid sentence and screamed, "Jim! Don't be scared! Come here!" that was designed to control and intimidate me.
Whatever the case, I feel so bad even today that it may have not been really me that was the cause of her rage, but maybe her whole life or maybe even childhood she was let down by others who knows. I am not a doctor but all I can say is I have never met anybody who yelled at me like an Army Drill Sargent would. I have had many people drop the ball on me, I have never blew up at them in a fit of rage. I may complain or demand I get something free, but I don't sit there and scream my head off for what? Screaming and acting wild does not accomplish anything.
But at this point and through the help of several on this thread that helped me understand, I think I finally understand a lot better. I just hope to God that my client will one day will forgive me. I feel so bad because she was a great client, was very nice to me, always nice and I blew it by offering too many favors. but then again, I have many male clients and I have offered to do many favors outside of my specialty because that is just me, when a client hires me, I like to do my best to really wow them. But unfortunately, you have to be careful when doing favors for an attractive woman that could misinterpret that as me hitting on them which I was not.