What?

You were 4 hours late without contacting her? Without calling and giving her updates? Without apologizing profusely the whole time you were knowing you were going to be that late?

Heck yes, she had a right to be furious. I'd be furious and it has nothing to do with being "an attractive women" (don't get me started on how horribly sexist this comment is). You wasted half her day without letting her know what was going on. Cable companies (that are notorious for bad customer service) give a better window of service and keep in better touch with their clients than that. This has nothing to do with her attractiveness, mental illness, or her supposed interpretation that you were hitting on her. YOU screwed up. You were inconsiderate and rude when you did not keep her informed about your lateness. Own it and stop trying to justify it some other way.