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Originally Posted by daisydid
Hmm. I know taking care of D has to be stressful for both you and H. Especially days like today when school is out, but your routine is still the same.
Perhaps it's just me, but I would probably be frustrated if I were your H. Between you asking about your Hs plans with D and the haircut, it's pretty obvious that you're trying to get them out of the house. Why not just ask? "I have 2 things due for work tomorrow. Would you be willing to take D out for an hour or two so I can get some work done?"
This is in no way saying that you don't do enough with D or that you should somehow be doing more. Just that the way you and H communicate about what you both need in regards to her care may need to change.
Im also 100% willing to admit that I'm off base here, especially since I don't know the dynamics in your marriage. Regardless, I hope session goes better than what you anticipate.  |
Thanks, Daisy (and Velcro, ETA). I did try asking him last night, saying I wanted to get a little work done. And I mentioned that to him today, too, and that if she was just hanging out on her own some (like playing in her room with toys or with one of our phones), then I could get work done then. But she's been pretty clingy with me, like I had trouble even managing to eat breakfast (just cereal with strawberries).
I'm wondering if he's feeling run down (I know he's usually sore after the gym), but if that's the case, he needs to TELL ME. And then I'd have just said I'd make do. (Can you tell we have communication problems???)
TMI alert: Doesn't help that a certain time of the month started last night, and I have pretty bad cramps, plus for some reason (hormones I assume), I'm super sleepy the first two days of it. So I was wiped last night and went to sleep when D did (like 9:30), when I'd intended to do work after she went to bed. He was up till like midnight, based on an e-mail he sent me.
I feel like I'm just whining here...and I did send H a text asking him to please let me know if he is angry/annoyed (or if he's not), just so I know what to expect going into MC. I suspect he'll be pissed at the text, even though MC in session will often say if I'm worried he's mad at me, to just ask him point blank (and of course "anger is OK!"TM MC). Even though that tends to annoy H (and he'll even say in session that it would be annoying for me to ask, but then MC will say it's OK for him to be annoyed at me). And I did try to ask him before he left, but he refused to answer (which to me means he's annoyed...)
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