My idea. I didn't walk in and say, "now let us turn to page 17 and I will read." I always try to articulate first what I'm thinking, and if I'm struggling I'll pull out the journal. But while I care about some boundaries (out of session contact, touch, asking personal questions of T), most I don't. At the end of the day, I employ my T to provide a professional service to me. If he doesn't like my approach, he's free to no longer take my money.