perception is a strange thing. even here on the boards we see what others don't. meaning that what some see people post is not what some think they are saying. I think you should keep up the marriage counseling and working on communication. again don't rush things. maybe when you are playing around with her like that be sure to put a lot of laughter in it. my hubby does little boy talk when he is playing. lol can't help but laugh at that.