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Originally Posted by Demunie
Hugs LT... Sorry you're struggeling so much right now. I think what you wrote does make sense, but also shows that you're in distress. I hope he answers soon. Do you know what kind of response would be helpful right now?
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Thanks, Demunie. That's a good question. I think some sort of apology and/or some sort of validation. Like "I'm sorry if I seemed to be avoiding the topic. I didn't mean to be. Let's discuss it more next session." Or "I didn't mean to have it seem like it was all on you. I'm sorry if it came across that way. It's not how I feel. We can discuss more on Monday if you like."
I think I just felt sort of invalidated, though that didn't register until after I left. I mean, in the middle of talking about the topic, I guess they thought I was done because they started talking about a sport they're both into (in a way that sort of related to something I said). But it bothered me because we were almost out of time (though he ended up keeping us an extra 15 minutes), and it was like, "You're using our time to talk about [sport]?" I mean, sure we talk about random stuff all the time, but in the middle of something I'm dealing with, it's different (in their defense, they probably thought I was done).
And then MC doing endearing things at the end, like singing that song as we were walking out--it initially gave me more positive, warm/fuzzy feelings, but then it was like, "Hey, I'm upset about this thing, and you're being playful like everything is totally fine." Though I know it was largely on me for not pushing the topic more, but we were out of time...