Maybe the best thing to do would be ask him ,an except the answer you get.Either way you have to be confident in that he isn't or you could ruin an amazing thing digging for fools gold.You may wake up an realize you've dug to china.....alone while what you want has done got so far out of graspe you'll never get it back.....sorry...just if we had time machines.. I would go back an love her better an if it burned again I would not change her being in my life I would not let her feel like nothing....don't worry about things to the point where you stop making moments.Time to feel each other an be in sync, also time to sync your self....doing what you like whether you partner does or not....respect one another an don't worry about what he does on his sync time as long as you have that respect an balance...DONT GO LOOKING FOR THINGS UNTIL YOU CREATE IT .....sprry maybe you need to open up to him that's all.