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Old May 29, 2017, 09:46 PM
nicoleflynn nicoleflynn is offline
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
It's heart breaking. It was important for you to write it. Great letter.

I don't know your father and if he is capable of change and understanding but my therapist told me that it's a waste of time and energy trying to explain toxic unhealthy people what they did or do wrong. They'll never see things the way they are. I gave up long time ago. Good for you for not giving up
I disagree with that therapist...this is called a letter of "restorative justice"--restorative justice says....this is what you did, this is how it made me feel. I believe it is empowering to speak up for ourselves. it isn't about the abuser, but about the person abused. My therapist was the one who gave me the term...restorative justice.
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Thanks for this!
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