i'm sorry this request has offended anyone. i sent a similar request to friends, and my husband thought that we might find more support if we reached out to fellow phobics, who are more likely to understand my anxiety.

he now see that that was ill-advised.

we'll find another way to get through this. please DO NOT SEND any names or numbers. any other suggestions would be appreciated.

perna and sabby, thanks so much for your kind words.

the restaurant idea is a good idea. and we'll look into routes that don't involve going on 95.