I agree with you both. I agree to the fact that I caused all of this by texting another female. I know my actions cause majority of the stuff she is doing to me. I also believe that she CHOSE to hang around this other man as a way to say "I can do what I want and you can't control me".

The big difference between us is that I'm ready to move forward. She keeps saying "We need to move forward because you are ready, but I'm not at the moment" She never said she wanted a flat out divorce or I'm pretty sure I would of gotten the papers. I just don't know what else I can do on my end except take care of my children and try to be successful at work. It's really difficult cause I know she is hurting and she said it numerous times indirectly. She feels she needs to finish school and do what she needs to do to provide for the kids as my betrayel ruined her trust. It's tough cause I still want to be with my wife and have my family back. It just seems to be on her timeframe and not mines