Hey DadFMF, I just came on to see how you were. I have a lot of catching up to do but see that others have helped along the way.

I don't want to hijack here. A lot has happened with me as well. My husband reneged on his word re marriage counselling/mc (although he agreed!) and we have since separated. I needed to TRY that, the mc route because we didn't seem to know how to help ourselves - the MC was my only hope for 'mediation,' clarity and civil-toned discussion, a go between ... but he just gave up. With that, I think that if it isn't that important to him to want to try anything to save the m, that it doesn't mean that much to him.

It seems as though you are at a neutral space as opposed to 'negative value' one from the little I have mulled over. Will 'back track' to see how things developed for you, but in the meantime, I wish you well (as always)