rainbow,

it's really important that you do what you can to keep yourselves safe right now. is t aware of what's going on? i so agree with angela...is there anyone (even if you don't explain to them what's going on in detail) that can stay with you when family is not around? or can you arrange to be at someone's house during those hours? i'm really concerned.

i think, if t doesn't already know, that you should call her and explain what's going on...IMHO. can you communicate to the angry one through paper or some other way? if so, is there some way to diffuse this situation that way? it seems that she wants you to know what's going on by forwarding the emails to you. maybe she's ready to communicate with you now? i'm grasping i know.

is there a way that you can tell hubby that you're scared about events right now without going into detail? stilll, i strongly suggest a phone call to t. i sure hope things calm down very very soon. i've been in your position (not exactly but similar...insiders have gotten me into some messes and fearful situations).

please let us know how you are doing...and any steps you plan on taking.

be safe,

kd