My concern was with the therapist's question "who starts the fights, your mom or dad?" I didnt want my son to be put in a situation where he felt like he was having to take sides and figure out who was to blame for starting arguments. I wanted him to express and get support for HIS feelings regarding the arguments, not have to figure out his parents problems. I was also concerned with the fact that she changed the subject when he wanted to talk about his friend. The reason I brought up the arguments to my son's therapist was because I wanted to be open about the challenges we have been facing as a family and i wanted to make sure that my son knew therapy is a safe place for him and our family to discuss those challenges. I realize that our arguments cause anxiety and I just wanted him to know that it's okay to talk about it. I explained to my son and therapist that it was up to my son what he wanted to talk about because we had also discussed his friend while I was still present in the room. Open Eyes, thank you for your post. It was helpful to me, you're right he needs support navigating the challenges he is facing with his peers and i'm sure his parents arguing is not helping much.