the 12 steps is not a miracle solution ... you have to work on you believes and your thoughts. All your reality is related to your believes and your thoughts. If you harm yourself it is because you reject yourself. you are a miracle ... get it? if you start loving yourself and choose yourself you will stop harming yourself. you have to realsize that you enter this world alone and you will leave this world alone. The best person you can ever met is you! Your goal in life is to learn how to know yourself and love yourself. I was harming myself... cuz I was rejecting me. I used to hate myself but I'm my best friend! I want to get MY approbatioin not the one of other **** that! Your selfestim must come from your evaluation not the one of other. If you come to a point where you love yourself you will stop harming it. Trust me. you are the most important person to your own self. ok?