I never said he was babysitting his children I said she wants him to watch the kids while she goes and sleeps at another mans house and goes and pretends she's a single woman instead of a married mother. He is in the right wanting to spend as much time with his kids as he can which is great. But to punish a man for texting by sleeping at another man's house, then dangling her love just beyond his reach. That punishment just doesn't fit the "crime" of having a conversation. I see no confusion on her part just sheer manipulation. Filing for divorce would end that ability for manipulation which is why I feel she won't file.