The world is so unnatural and we live lives so unatural to our biological directives. It causes a lot of pain and confusion for some of us. You are not a loser, you are just lacking in purpose right now. I keep a piece of paper and pencil next to me and write down things I want to learn that would bring me joy. Like making the best, ooiest, gooiest cinnamon rolls from scratch, life goals or inspirations. I need to now wrote a list of the ingredients I will need for my cinnamon roll adventure. It's not like making cinnamon rolls can change me into the productive person I wish I was but it's a start, and I think it would be fun and my family will appreciate it. Maybe you could make your own list. I've been working on mine for several weeks and only have a few things on it but each one is something that will bring me personal joy and satisfaction and I think that is what I need more of in my life. Finding joy has been hard but it's vital for me. When depressed it's impossible but even when depressed I sometimes think of something I'd like to learn and that gives me a tiny goal which is something. Good luck.