Thank you all for your responses. I do want to support her going through school, I do want our marriage to get past this with boundaries set. I feel that we don't have to be separated in order for her to accomplish that. I have needs as well as my love language is touch and affection. I haven't physically touched my wife in 14 months (Deployed 9 of those). I want to go to counseling but she says she to "busy" and doesn't have time for it. So how can I throw everything out on the table when she refuses too? Plus she's been lying about things that I even have proof of.

I could have left a long time ago after getting beat down but I'm still here trying to make it work. I could go sleep around if I really wanted to but I don't want that. All I ask for is 100% honesty. Is that to hard to ask? There are only 2 ways this can go, there is no inbetween