Okay, so in trying to think about this, I'm putting the issue of her dad aside, for now.

There are plenty of people who have revolting father in laws, but you married her, and unfortunately he's the baggage in the package, so to speak.

So.

What I'm truly interested in, is what she actually bullies you about?

You've called her control freak.

With what particular situations do you feel she controls you in?

Sounds like a crappy marriage, I'm just trying to gauge if these issues could be workable before jumping to drastic conclusions.