I have the exact same problem with my wife. I know exactly why she's that way.
1. She REALLY doesn't WANT to have sex with me !
2. She's very insensitive to my feelings, calling me " too needy ".
3. She is unfortunately one of those people who don't know how to share
their feelings. Literally.
I could probably go on but I think you get the picture. I can tell you from experience that if situation does not get worked out someway, trouble lies ahead. Frustration is very frustrating.
I can't deal with people who are so insensitive, or can't talk about their REAL feelings. Got no time for them.
Good luck to you and your relationship.