Does she know EXACTLY WHAT you are willing to do to support her going through school? Like a detailed proposal from you that guarantees the completion of her education? Not just words claiming that you will.

That is what I would be demanding at this point in time if I ever considered that there was a future in the marriage. She is looking at her OWN financial security that ONLY SHE HERSELF can provide for herself. All are the consequences of your texting but that created an awakening in her WAY BEYOND what you seem to be capable of understanding.