Well things have changed for me. I no longer feel the need to be so clingy with my wife. I realize that she is her own person and I am my own. The whole co-dependent thing really stinks. I don't know where it comes from but I am over it. I should have listened to what all my friends said in here, but I was blinded by needing someone to hold me and talk to me. My wife is a wonderful woman and I have suggested that we go to couple's sessions again in hopes that we can both get straight (mainly me) in our heads what we want. She is the most beautiful woman I have ever met and I cannot forget to mention how loving and caring she is. When I lost my job (after 9-11) she was there for me holding me and telling me things would be ok. And they were that is the one thing about the two of us. Whenever one of us tells the other that everything will be ok, then we strive to make sure that it is. Anyway getting verbose here but I just wanted to let all my friends know I am taking three or four steps back. I hope everyone has a great day.

Dragon