Sometimes whenvwe really dont know why someone is behaving tje way they do, it comes across as intentional. My ex's behsvior serioysly felt like intentional emotional abuse. It was only after I left & resesrched what had gone whorg with my marriage that I realized his behaviors were ALL described as normal characteristic behaviorsof someone with ASD. If I had never realized that, I would have been sure his brhaviors were intentionally hurtful toward me & yes, an enemy BUT when someone's behaviors are a result of a condition they have no control over & the hurt was NOT intentional, its hard to consider that an enemy though without UNDERSTANDING that is exactly what the behavior would be considered. Ah, if only life was so black & white. I would never go back to living in that environment ever again, but at least I know now that he is not an enemy. Many times we dont know the real cause of someone's behaviors & it is really easy to label them as an enemy.