talk about mixed messages....how would I interpret this? A full time wife could very well be interpreted that I don't want you working or getting an education. I just want you full time being WIFE....which could very well In her mind contradict your words telling her you support her education. You notice her coldness came back AFTER you said that. This would have been a perfect time to talk about what REAL LIFE support you are willing to give her in that support for her to have in gaining her ability to provide for herself if anything were to happen to you.

I saw that as being all about your needs in that conversation. Right now it looks like you are both in a pi$$ing contest with each other & you might as well write it off because you keep focusing on the crap without really looking at what is the foundational problem that exists between you & what she is fighting against.