Christina .....you are right about the therapist....why have I tolerated this kind of behaviour all these years... to keep the family together...yes....but I probably haven't done them any favours by doing this.
eskielover....I agree it will not make a difference for a few days.....and he will probably never change.....I think the clincher was the fact that I got physically hurt this time....where as before it was all verbal and emotional, which are more insidious....but the physical was the last straw.....
Thank you both for your support