Here's me thinking men had so much more freedom than women and would simply pack up and walk away when pushed so far. You have a big heart to tolerate being bullied. I felt suffocated by my ex who deep down knew and even said he was "holding me back."
Do you have children together?
Do you want her to change, is it possible?
I hope you consider leaving, and I won't lie it may be a struggle for a long time after being connected to someone so long.
I had gave up everything for a guy. I lost myself. Didn't know who I was anymore.
Are you muslim? I know the dishonour in abandoning family. If not what is stopping you.