Dear luvyrself, you could be right about this: "milking this to get your sympathy." That's a possibility, I know, because she keeps ON AND ON getting herself into these same types of situations. What do you suggest I do? As for this: "Amanda needs to report this to someone who will pull Betty's privileges until she shapes up." That has already happened more than once BUT, as I wrote in my first post on this thread (I hope clearly?) the two of them both report each other to the apt. manager, accusing each other, filing for restraining orders, and on and on and on. Plus, Amanda has had similar problems in every apt complex she has lived in, as long as I have known her. I would hate to lose her friendship. I'll ask my therapist when I see him next, for advice. Thanks for these insights, luvyrself.