Gee, ElsaMars. Thanks for your compassion and sympathy for both Amanda and me. First, I have a question -- I think there's a typo here somewhere: "it sounds like you me a real mess." Not sure what you're trying to say here? As for the two of us moving in together, there are several reasons that can't happen, but the real, real, real reason is I can't live with ANYONE. I don't get along with people I try to live with. One of the BIG reasons my b/f and I get along so well (other than that he's just one SUPER guy!) is that we do not live together!