I need some advice on how to handle jealousy. My best friend (it's a long distance friendship) has recently met a guy and tentatively started dating him. While I'm so happy she has found someone who she loves being around, I am intensely jealous of this budding relationship. They've only been on a few dates and mostly just hanging out and texting. My problem is every time she brings him up, I get almost physically sick to my stomach - I get that like jittery, nervous feeling in the pit of my stomach.

I know my feelings primarily stem from my own insecurities that I have - insecurities that she wont have any time for me because she has a boyfriend. Fear that our friendship won't be as close because now that she has a boyfriend to love her she won't need me in her life to provide that for her. She's still hesitant about the relationship so it may not stick... but I can't help but think what if it does. She told me yesterday since he's older he's ready to settle down and they are both going into the new relationship with the intention of it being serious and not a casual fling. They've only known each other for about a month and just started actually going on dates... but my friend is already thinking of if this relationship will end in marriage. And it panics me and I feel sick about it all. I just want to be happy for her because she's had a really tough time of things and she deserves to have happiness and love. But at the same time my feelings of jealousy overwhelm me and it makes me hope they break up so I can have her all to myself.

Does anyone have any ways that might help me calm myself when she starts talking about this guy? I could hardly eat dinner last night because she was texting me about where their relationship is going before I sat down to dinner and I felt sick.

I am thinking of maybe finding a therapist for my issues... but in the mean time does anyone have any ideas on how to stop feeling so sick to my stomach whenever she brings him up?