I am sorry you are feeling this way.

I don't really have an advice. I don't know what I would do. I don't suffer from
Depression but I am not driving 3 hours on Saturday to see anyone ( well I would to see my daughter but that's about it). I am too tired and have too much to do. I commute two hours daily so no way I drive that far on the weekend. It's exhausting.

I lost some friends over the years because I was expected to do things that I couldn't provide: primarily flying or driving far away places and arrangining vacations to meet them. I understand it sucks. But I think even without depression it's not easy to maintain distance friendships.

Could you talk on the phone rather than driving there